Crystal Spiegel, LCSW 303 5th Avenue, NY 646-846-2947
When you’re dealing with anxiety, you may experience muscle tension, shortness of breath, tingling in the limbs, and other physical symptoms. Perhaps you struggle to fall asleep at night because you’re so stressed out about the next day. No matter how hard you try to calm yourself down, you’re always thinking ahead and bracing yourself for the worst possible scenario. Deep down, you may ask yourself: What will it take to feel differently? Can I ever catch a break?
Anxiety Can Hold You Back From Forming The Relationships You Want
Oftentimes, the hardest part about living with anxiety is how it can sabotage your hopes and desires. Perhaps you long for meaningful relationships, but fear of rejection keeps you from forming them. As much as you want to get out, socialize, and have a good time with your friends, anxiety makes you keep to yourself.
Isolating may provide temporary relief, but in the end, it usually makes you feel worse. Without people there to support you, it’s easy to lose perspective and spiral down. You may berate yourself for not taking chances and struggle with self-loathing.
To overcome this cycle of stress and loneliness, it’s important to seek help. Anxiety treatment is a chance to break out of avoidant behaviors and feel more grounded and rooted wherever you are in life. With my support, I am confident that I can help you increase your confidence and find stillness in the present.
Anxiety Isn’t Always A Problem Until It Starts To Consume Your Life
Anxiety is a normal part of life. Sometimes, it can even be useful—feeling stressed can help you be motivated and alert when an important event comes up. After all, anxiety is a survival mechanism wired to help you prepare for danger. The problem arises when this survival mechanism hijacks your system and makes you stressed when you don’t need to be. Unfortunately, many people struggle to let go of anxiety because they find it useful. After all, if anxiety helps them be productive, why would they want to give it up? For this reason, people are often willing to endure unhealthy levels of stress if it keeps them motivated. In the end, however, refusing to address anxiety usually backfires and hurts their productivity more than it helps.
Sometimes, anxiety is embedded in trauma. Unresolved emotional pain may have created unhelpful patterns of thinking and behavior. For instance, if you were bullied as a child, you may have developed a defense mechanism of people-pleasing in order to avoid being hurt. While this people-pleasing tendency may have helped when you were young, it may hold you back from being honest in your relationships today.
In anxiety therapy, I want to help you identify this “part” of yourself and create space from it. By learning to recognize your desire to people-please in real time, you can more effectively manage it when it arises. The goal is to find emotional separation from all the parts contributing to anxiety, allowing you to understand them without getting stuck in the patterns they created.
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